Feng Shui - English

Objects that I love

Years ago, I did a Feng Shui Consultancy to a newly married woman. She had a good, balanced life, loved her husband and had high energy. However, she had issues being at home, especially in her living room. It was the nicest and the largest area of her house, yet she was refusing to spend time there unless she had to.

Naturally, we concentrated on the causes and realized that one of the major reasons for her blockage was not the space but the objects. She had many accessories, that she didn’t like, and also had a carpet that she could barely look at. So, I asked her why she was keeping all these things, if she didn’t like them, and she told me that they were all gifts from family and she was supposed to do so.

I explained to her that, all the objects which she didn’t like, but had to keep around, was blocking her energy and the best cure was to put them away. She was reluctant at first, but eventually agreed to it. Nevertheless, she told me that there was no way, she could remove the carpet, as it was a wedding gift from her mother-in-law and if she did, she would get into trouble. I told her to trust her soul’s desires and mentioned that when we do things out of love and with good intentions, everything goes right. Before leaving, I asked her to pay attention to how much the carpet was disturbing her. After a few weeks, when I went back to her house to do the final check, I saw the carpet was gone! I immediately looked at her with questioning eyes; and she said that until to that day, her know-it-all and see-it-all in-law didn’t even realize that the carpet had disappeared!

I have seen this scenario, in almost all the spaces I have done Feng Shui consultations. When we don’t like the objects, colors or furniture in the spaces we live in, we feel disharmony and the flow of chi (life energy) gets blocked.

As we all know by now, everything around us interacts with our soul. When we love an object, our energy will rise and when we dislike an object, we will experience the opposite. Even though we think changing items’ places or removing them will cause issues with others, it will not. When the blockages are cleared and the chi starts flowing harmoniously, everything finds its right place creating peace.

It is very crucial that we hear and feel our environment and decide what serves us. Certainly, we can’t be happy in an environment that is filled with stuff that reminds us about our distressed past, arguments and failures. And certainly, we won’t like seeing objects that remind us about the people that we dislike.   It is only when we find the inner strength to remove the paining stuff from our space and our lives, the blockages in our lives will start to disappear.

Unfortunately, even though we feel this energy shift, we still keep objects around us that we despise, just like the newly married woman. We keep them, firstly, because we don’t believe that simply moving an object will make a difference. Secondly, we feel obligated to make others happy, letting go of our own needs.

So, today, please take your time to look around your space, and see how the objects, colors around you, are affecting your soul. Listen to yourself. Take the object to your hand or simply touch it, are you smiling or are you feeling off? If you don’t even want to look at the object, you know what to do, please don’t hesitate.

For those of us who are married or living with a partner, we need to find our own balance with our partners. We will both need to express ourselves in our shared spaces while learning to compromise.

Let’s not forget to value our soul’s desires to create harmony between the physical and the spiritual.

With Love,

Eda Birol