Coaching

Pretty Daisy

At work, I went out during the break and started walking in the premises. There are small pieces of grass scattered in the area with barely any flowers. Then I saw one small daisy in this unmaintained area. I stopped and greeted her. She looked lonely but happy. I started talking to her, and then thanked her for her existence that radiated beauty. While walking away, I had the urge to take her with me but instead, I chose to record her in my mind. Right now I can see the daisy’s loose, thin, cloud like white petals, her fragile slanted stem and her flickering two leaves.

Now as I am writing, I am thinking how we all have similar existing moments like this pretty daisy’s, where we feel fragile, lonely and sometimes even flicker at life’s unexpected circumstances, finding ourselves in a foreign place with some insights of familiarity. No matter what, we all continue to exist, radiate our light and stand still.

With that deep thoughts from my heart, I want to wish you all a great week with Mary Oliver’s poem:

How Perfectly

How perfectly
and neatly
opens the pink rose

this bright morning,
the sun warm
on my shoulders,

Its heat
on the opening petals.
Possibly

it is the smallest,
the least important event
at this moment

in the whole world.
Yet I stand there,
utterly happy.

Coaching

Doing nothing

I try to quite my mind as I delve into nothingness. Physically, my body is not moving, my eyes, wandering at the sky, but the thoughts are crowding into my mind making it difficult for me to do nothing. I can’t overcome the thought of when I am thinking, I am still doing something…

I try to apply what I learned in meditation. Allowing the thoughts to come, observing and then letting them move away like clouds.

I am trying to reach that nothingness. Once I am there I will savor that moment. Yes, I am purposefully saying ‘moment’ as it is basically impossible for me to stay in that state more than a minute, maybe two.

Once in the nothingness, a feeling of unity, completion dawns on me leaving its place to oneness. One with the nature, with the world, with my happiness and my sadness. That is such a bliss.

But as I said, this whole feeling of eternity exists no more than a few minutes, then I am back to doing something again. Thinking, worrying, moving, drinking water, writing, planning… Now I can’t go back to nothingness, at least for now as the life kicked in and the physicality took over.

I know it is okay, as I have tomorrow and the next day to feel the nothingness and the oneness once again, if I can create the time and the inner stability to do so.

Coaching

Getting Out Of My Box

I remember grabbing the microphone hesitantly during a lecture to ask a question in front of fifty young adults. That was a terrifying moment, I remember shaking, sweating, becoming red and wanting to disappear from shame, thinking that all those ears could only hear my heartbeat, not my question. I paused and breathed. I was determined to do this, to talk in front of the audience, something I was shy to do even in school, not only before the big crowd but also among my classmates.

As far as I remember, that was my first big push in life, getting out of my box, a phrase which I wasn’t familiar with, back then when I was 22. I had no idea that this would lead to another path for me in the future, talking comfortably in front of hundreds of people for work.

In the following years, when I was curious and bold enough, I pushed my walls away to set to new horizons but when my fears kicked in, I chose to stay in my box. The fears of failure and the idea of being disapproved by others led to self-sabotage my dreams.

Lately, I have decided to push my walls again to pursue my dreams. I am in the process of making peace with my fears and diverting that strong negative voice in my head to concentrate on the whisper of my soul. This will be another exciting journey for me and I am very curious to see and experience what Universe will unfold for me.

 

Coaching

A New Door

When a new door opens in our life, it’s better to enter through that door without any second thoughts. We might be ready or reluctant to pass through, however, there is a reason why that door appeared at that specific time in our lives.

As soon as, we let go of our thoughts, prejudices and fears, we allow ourselves to be guided by the Universe. By grabbing the opportunity emerging on our path with loyalty, we surrender to the Universe.

Everything that comes on our path will take us to a new level, a different dimension. Just know that ‘non-resistance’ comes with incredible rewards.

Sometimes it might seem that the door we entered led us nowhere and we might start torturing ourselves with the question ‘what if I didn’t”. If we give in to this doubt, it will weigh heavy on our souls.

Who knows maybe this door is only a passage to the next one that will open to the realization of our dreams.

When we go with the flow without any negativity, we put our souls on the guidance seat. And truly, with the guidance of the soul, life can only be beautiful.

Coaching

One Step Further

We are living in an interesting era.

Our thoughts are manifesting much faster than before. We think about a person, and in no time, we either see that person or hear about him. We feel something will go wrong, immediately, we experience an issue in our lives. In an unexplainable way, it feels like, time has started to flow much faster than before.

Actually, this fast manifestation is very fascinating as it allows us to experience our lives without delays. That’s the good news. But there is a challenge to it. Life will manifest the positive and the negative, depending on what we send to the Universe.

If we are ‘being positive’ with our words but subconsciously transmitting negative vibes, then we will experience exactly what we don’t want. That’s one of the main reasons that we all know very positive people who are still struggling.

We need to take the positivity one step further. We need to align our energy with our words and thoughts because the Universe only responds to our vibration.

Every day is a blessed opportunity for us to make a change in our lives. Once we know that words are not enough, we can train ourselves to raise our vibrations to our desires and move to the receiving mode as the Universe is always in the giving mode. Then, all we need to do is to allow the right energy to flow into our lives.

Coaching, Yaşam Koçluğu

Yarını Farklı Yazmak

 

Zamanın daraldığı, düşüncelerin daha kısa zamanda maddeleştiği bir
zaman dilimine girdik artık. Her birimiz daha bilinçli bir yaşamın
yollarını ararken, hayatımızın amacını da anlamaya çalışıyoruz.

Kendimizle bir hesaplaşma içindeyiz.

Karşımıza çıkan kitaplar, insanlar her konuşmanın sonunu gelişim-
enerji-ısık- evren-karma’ya getiriyor… Bu bir tesadüf değil.

Evrende, arınma zamanı başladı ve herşey olması gerektiği gibi.

Kozmik enerji, bizi,  içimize dönmemiz ve karmalarımızı temizlememiz için sürekli sıkıştırıyor ki, binlerce defa geldiğimiz bu dünyada bu sefer amacımıza ulaşabilelim.

Taşıdığımız yüklerimiz hafiflemek istiyor, ve  kaos olarak yaşamımıza giriyorlar. Bize korkunç gelen senaryolarımız, aslında arınabilmemiz için gerekli. Bazen sorunu çözebiliyoruz, bazense yüzleşmek istemiyoruz problemimiz ile. Ancak, kaosumuzdan kaçtığımız sürece problemi yok etmiyoruz, sadece üstünü örtüyoruz ve maalesef  aynı sorun, zamanla, büyüyerek tekrar karşımıza çıkıyor.

Kaosun içindeyken, bazen bir şekilde içimize dönüyor ve bir takım bağımlılıklarımızı değiştirir gibi oluyoruz, ama daha sonra, kaos hafiflediğinde kendimizi tekrar eski kalıplarımızda buluyoruz.

Döngülerimizi anlamak ve her döngünün altında yatan kalıplarımızla kucaklaşmak, arınmanın ilk adımı. Bu ilk adimla,  Tanrı/Evren’in enerjisinin yaşamımızda akmasına izin vermeye başlıyoruz. Ama bunun devamını getirebilmek çok onemli… Yoksa eskiye dönüp, tarihin kendini tekrarladığı gibi, kalıplarımızın bize yarattıgı kaosları tekrarlatırız yaşamımızda…

Tüm bu tekrarlara dur demek, geleceği geçmisten farklı yazmak bizim elimizde.

Anne-babamız, kardeşlerimiz,  geniş ailemiz, ailenin maddi durumu, eğitimi, doğduğumuz ülke gibi her detay özenle planlanmış. Dünyadaki konumumuz, karmamızı en iyi şekilde temizleyebilmemiz için dizayn edilmiş.  Muazzam bir tasarım.. Başarılı olmamız için herşeyimiz var.  Ancak biz etrafımızı, bize yardımcı değil, çoğu zaman düşman olarak algılıyoruz.  Ruhumuz her ne kadar muhteşem dengeyi bize fısıldasa da pek kabul etmiyoruz. Etrafımızı suçlamak, durumumuz için sorumluluk almaktan daha kolay geliyor.

Durumu daha iyi anlayabilmek için, örneklendirelim: Mesela, bu yaşamda çözmemiz gereken özelliklerimizden biri cimrilikse, bu tarafımızı zorlayacak çevrede dünyaya geliriz. Cimri anne veya baba, parasızlık, sürekli bizden borç isteyem kişiler vesaire yaşamımızı doldurabilir. Biz yaşadıklarımızdan dolayı, çevremize, ailemize kızabilir ve o ortamdan çekip gidebiliriz, ancak yaşamımızda hiçbir şey değişmez. Sadece bu özelliğimizi kabullenmeye karar verdiğimizde ve etrafımizdaki herkesi bir ayna olarak görüp, değişmeye niyet ettiğimizde, değişimin ilk adımlarını atmaya, döngümüzü kırmaya başlamış oluruz.

Bu noktada blokajımızda bir delik açılır ve, Tanri/Evren’den gelen enerji o delikten girip kalıbı içten temizlemeye başlar , böylece değişim başlar yaşamımızda.

Ancak,  bizim işimiz burda bitmez. Hic bir kalıp, bir anda, sadece farkederek, veya sorumluluk alarak, sonsuza dek yok olmuyor. O enerji titreşimimizi devam ettirebilmemiz ve kendimizle calışmaya devam etmemiz gerekiyor.

Dolayısıyla, içimize yolculuk, ömür boyu sürecek, muhteşem bir calışma.

Vazgeçmeyelim.

Bazen kendimizi tekrar eski enerjimizde bulsak da, Evren’in ışığının, önceden açtığımız delikten girip, iyileştirme sürecini başlattığını hatırlayalım. Kendimizi zaman zaman, eski kalıplarımızla bulduğumuzda, onlara artık  ihtiyacımız olmadığını görelim ve yolumuza devam edelim.

 

Meditasyona, kendimizi dinlemeye veya duaya zaman ayıralım… Tanrı/Evren’den yardım isteyelim. Kalıplarımızı tanımamız ve onları kırmamız için içgörü ve devam edebilmemiz icin de devamlılık enerjisi isteyelim. Ve değişimi sadece beynimizde değil, kalbimizle, tüm vücudumuzun titreşimiyle isteyelim.

Yaşamımızda istek yaratalım, isteğin cevabı bize  gelecektir…

 

 

 

 

 

Coaching

Free Yourself

I decided to step away from my victim identity.

I know that most of you, just like me, chose to be a victim in life, blaming others and life when we encountered a chaotic situation and found ourselves with an outcome we didn’t like.

Although we knew the damage of victimizing ourselves, we still chose to do so, always putting the blame on others or life. For whatever reason, it’s very hard for us to shake off from that role.

On the other hand we are very happy when life treats us well, and when things go smooth. At those moments we have high energy, get along with almost everyone and are grateful to the Universe.

The moment we experience an issue that we don’t like, our energy falls from high to very low levels, our positivity hides behind our negativity and our good connection with the Universe turns into questions like, “Really G-d? Why me? Why now?”

We aren’t able to stand still and stay positive when we get a traffic ticket from a very grumpy policeman or when we lose money or find our loved ones lied to us. Most of the times we immediately fall into our misery and create a beautiful victim of ourselves, expecting others to pity us. While we are in this mode, how can anyone expect us still to be grateful to G-d? That second, our relation with the Universe changes into blame and we totally disconnect.
It’s incredible why we keep on doing the same thing and falling into our agony. Maybe we just don’t realize that we are choosing to be a victim. Perhaps it feels safe to be in that state since taking responsibility might end up with a change and it scares us.

We all know that neither being a victim nor others feeling for us will ever help us to better the scenario we are going through.
Don’t you think it’s time for all of us to shake off from our victim role and take responsibility of our lives?

If you agree, please always remember that we are a part of a bigger plan and we are all perfect. We come to life with a correction and until that correction is realized, we will create scenarios in our lives that push us to our limits. Those limits are the points where we feel victimized; and it blocks us to make any corrections. Furthermore our energy sends messages to the Universe, saying that the correction is not completed, send a similar one.

If we want a smoother life, it’s time to step aside form our misery.

The first step is to wake up from our sleep, acknowledging and accepting our chaos.

The second step is instead of blaming G-d and others, asking our selves, why am I living this and what’s the message Universe is trying to give me.

And the third step is to be open to changes.

Being kind and grateful are the most important tools that help us with the process. Once we take responsibility and be open to changes, everything around us will start shifting. Even the policeman that stops us for a ticket will smile and will either give us a warning or the case will drop at the traffic court.

Life is just beyond amazing when we get out of our victim mode.