Coaching

A New Door

When a new door opens in our life, it’s better to enter through that door without any second thoughts. We might be ready or reluctant to pass through, however, there is a reason why that door appeared at that specific time in our lives.

As soon as, we let go of our thoughts, prejudices and fears, we allow ourselves to be guided by the Universe. By grabbing the opportunity emerging on our path with loyalty, we surrender to the Universe.

Everything that comes on our path will take us to a new level, a different dimension. Just know that ‘non-resistance’ comes with incredible rewards.

Sometimes it might seem that the door we entered led us nowhere and we might start torturing ourselves with the question ‘what if I didn’t”. If we give in to this doubt, it will weigh heavy on our souls.

Who knows maybe this door is only a passage to the next one that will open to the realization of our dreams.

When we go with the flow without any negativity, we put our souls on the guidance seat. And truly, with the guidance of the soul, life can only be beautiful.

Coaching

One Step Further

We are living in an interesting era.

Our thoughts are manifesting much faster than before. We think about a person, and in no time, we either see that person or hear about him. We feel something will go wrong, immediately, we experience an issue in our lives. In an unexplainable way, it feels like, time has started to flow much faster than before.

Actually, this fast manifestation is very fascinating as it allows us to experience our lives without delays. That’s the good news. But there is a challenge to it. Life will manifest the positive and the negative, depending on what we send to the Universe.

If we are ‘being positive’ with our words but subconsciously transmitting negative vibes, then we will experience exactly what we don’t want. That’s one of the main reasons that we all know very positive people who are still struggling.

We need to take the positivity one step further. We need to align our energy with our words and thoughts because the Universe only responds to our vibration.

Every day is a blessed opportunity for us to make a change in our lives. Once we know that words are not enough, we can train ourselves to raise our vibrations to our desires and move to the receiving mode as the Universe is always in the giving mode. Then, all we need to do is to allow the right energy to flow into our lives.

Coaching, Yaşam Koçluğu

Yarını Farklı Yazmak

 

Zamanın daraldığı, düşüncelerin daha kısa zamanda maddeleştiği bir
zaman dilimine girdik artık. Her birimiz daha bilinçli bir yaşamın
yollarını ararken, hayatımızın amacını da anlamaya çalışıyoruz.

Kendimizle bir hesaplaşma içindeyiz.

Karşımıza çıkan kitaplar, insanlar her konuşmanın sonunu gelişim-
enerji-ısık- evren-karma’ya getiriyor… Bu bir tesadüf değil.

Evrende, arınma zamanı başladı ve herşey olması gerektiği gibi.

Kozmik enerji, bizi,  içimize dönmemiz ve karmalarımızı temizlememiz için sürekli sıkıştırıyor ki, binlerce defa geldiğimiz bu dünyada bu sefer amacımıza ulaşabilelim.

Taşıdığımız yüklerimiz hafiflemek istiyor, ve  kaos olarak yaşamımıza giriyorlar. Bize korkunç gelen senaryolarımız, aslında arınabilmemiz için gerekli. Bazen sorunu çözebiliyoruz, bazense yüzleşmek istemiyoruz problemimiz ile. Ancak, kaosumuzdan kaçtığımız sürece problemi yok etmiyoruz, sadece üstünü örtüyoruz ve maalesef  aynı sorun, zamanla, büyüyerek tekrar karşımıza çıkıyor.

Kaosun içindeyken, bazen bir şekilde içimize dönüyor ve bir takım bağımlılıklarımızı değiştirir gibi oluyoruz, ama daha sonra, kaos hafiflediğinde kendimizi tekrar eski kalıplarımızda buluyoruz.

Döngülerimizi anlamak ve her döngünün altında yatan kalıplarımızla kucaklaşmak, arınmanın ilk adımı. Bu ilk adimla,  Tanrı/Evren’in enerjisinin yaşamımızda akmasına izin vermeye başlıyoruz. Ama bunun devamını getirebilmek çok onemli… Yoksa eskiye dönüp, tarihin kendini tekrarladığı gibi, kalıplarımızın bize yarattıgı kaosları tekrarlatırız yaşamımızda…

Tüm bu tekrarlara dur demek, geleceği geçmisten farklı yazmak bizim elimizde.

Anne-babamız, kardeşlerimiz,  geniş ailemiz, ailenin maddi durumu, eğitimi, doğduğumuz ülke gibi her detay özenle planlanmış. Dünyadaki konumumuz, karmamızı en iyi şekilde temizleyebilmemiz için dizayn edilmiş.  Muazzam bir tasarım.. Başarılı olmamız için herşeyimiz var.  Ancak biz etrafımızı, bize yardımcı değil, çoğu zaman düşman olarak algılıyoruz.  Ruhumuz her ne kadar muhteşem dengeyi bize fısıldasa da pek kabul etmiyoruz. Etrafımızı suçlamak, durumumuz için sorumluluk almaktan daha kolay geliyor.

Durumu daha iyi anlayabilmek için, örneklendirelim: Mesela, bu yaşamda çözmemiz gereken özelliklerimizden biri cimrilikse, bu tarafımızı zorlayacak çevrede dünyaya geliriz. Cimri anne veya baba, parasızlık, sürekli bizden borç isteyem kişiler vesaire yaşamımızı doldurabilir. Biz yaşadıklarımızdan dolayı, çevremize, ailemize kızabilir ve o ortamdan çekip gidebiliriz, ancak yaşamımızda hiçbir şey değişmez. Sadece bu özelliğimizi kabullenmeye karar verdiğimizde ve etrafımizdaki herkesi bir ayna olarak görüp, değişmeye niyet ettiğimizde, değişimin ilk adımlarını atmaya, döngümüzü kırmaya başlamış oluruz.

Bu noktada blokajımızda bir delik açılır ve, Tanri/Evren’den gelen enerji o delikten girip kalıbı içten temizlemeye başlar , böylece değişim başlar yaşamımızda.

Ancak,  bizim işimiz burda bitmez. Hic bir kalıp, bir anda, sadece farkederek, veya sorumluluk alarak, sonsuza dek yok olmuyor. O enerji titreşimimizi devam ettirebilmemiz ve kendimizle calışmaya devam etmemiz gerekiyor.

Dolayısıyla, içimize yolculuk, ömür boyu sürecek, muhteşem bir calışma.

Vazgeçmeyelim.

Bazen kendimizi tekrar eski enerjimizde bulsak da, Evren’in ışığının, önceden açtığımız delikten girip, iyileştirme sürecini başlattığını hatırlayalım. Kendimizi zaman zaman, eski kalıplarımızla bulduğumuzda, onlara artık  ihtiyacımız olmadığını görelim ve yolumuza devam edelim.

 

Meditasyona, kendimizi dinlemeye veya duaya zaman ayıralım… Tanrı/Evren’den yardım isteyelim. Kalıplarımızı tanımamız ve onları kırmamız için içgörü ve devam edebilmemiz icin de devamlılık enerjisi isteyelim. Ve değişimi sadece beynimizde değil, kalbimizle, tüm vücudumuzun titreşimiyle isteyelim.

Yaşamımızda istek yaratalım, isteğin cevabı bize  gelecektir…

 

 

 

 

 

Coaching

Free Yourself

I decided to step away from my victim identity.

I know that most of you, just like me, chose to be a victim in life, blaming others and life when we encountered a chaotic situation and found ourselves with an outcome we didn’t like.

Although we knew the damage of victimizing ourselves, we still chose to do so, always putting the blame on others or life. For whatever reason, it’s very hard for us to shake off from that role.

On the other hand we are very happy when life treats us well, and when things go smooth. At those moments we have high energy, get along with almost everyone and are grateful to the Universe.

The moment we experience an issue that we don’t like, our energy falls from high to very low levels, our positivity hides behind our negativity and our good connection with the Universe turns into questions like, “Really G-d? Why me? Why now?”

We aren’t able to stand still and stay positive when we get a traffic ticket from a very grumpy policeman or when we lose money or find our loved ones lied to us. Most of the times we immediately fall into our misery and create a beautiful victim of ourselves, expecting others to pity us. While we are in this mode, how can anyone expect us still to be grateful to G-d? That second, our relation with the Universe changes into blame and we totally disconnect.
It’s incredible why we keep on doing the same thing and falling into our agony. Maybe we just don’t realize that we are choosing to be a victim. Perhaps it feels safe to be in that state since taking responsibility might end up with a change and it scares us.

We all know that neither being a victim nor others feeling for us will ever help us to better the scenario we are going through.
Don’t you think it’s time for all of us to shake off from our victim role and take responsibility of our lives?

If you agree, please always remember that we are a part of a bigger plan and we are all perfect. We come to life with a correction and until that correction is realized, we will create scenarios in our lives that push us to our limits. Those limits are the points where we feel victimized; and it blocks us to make any corrections. Furthermore our energy sends messages to the Universe, saying that the correction is not completed, send a similar one.

If we want a smoother life, it’s time to step aside form our misery.

The first step is to wake up from our sleep, acknowledging and accepting our chaos.

The second step is instead of blaming G-d and others, asking our selves, why am I living this and what’s the message Universe is trying to give me.

And the third step is to be open to changes.

Being kind and grateful are the most important tools that help us with the process. Once we take responsibility and be open to changes, everything around us will start shifting. Even the policeman that stops us for a ticket will smile and will either give us a warning or the case will drop at the traffic court.

Life is just beyond amazing when we get out of our victim mode.

Coaching

God is Whispering

Our souls talk to us all the time.

We usually don’t hear that talk. Sometimes we hear a whisper, but is so so soft that we barely pay any attention to it.

We’ve all experienced and got stressed over losing our wallet or keys before leaving the house. If we were in a hurry, we felt that unpleasant anger flowing down on our spines. Maybe it wasn’t the keys, it was the license that got lost . Or we were laid off once and felt extremely unworthy or gone bankrupt and got depressed, or gone through a painful divorce and lost our joy.

How can a sane person make sense of all the dramas of life? How can we not fall into depression and blame life or ourselves for all that’s happening?

Of course, logically there is no good in losing a key or a license and being late, getting laid off and having income issues or getting divorced. None.

However the truth is we are complicated beings above logic. Our existence is beyond logic and we can’t continue seeking logic in everything we go through.

We come to this world with a plan. Some call it karma, some call it tikkun – correction-. We learn as we live and make corrections along the way. Every thing that is happening to us actually is a part of our plan whether we like it or not. It might sound very radical but everything happening to us is perfect for our soul and needed for our growth.

Everything around us from humans to matter, have a spark of God within. We are all connected somehow. And through that connection we are in communication. We are just not trained to hear it.

Universe talks to us through our every single experience.

We can’t find our wallet at that moment because maybe we left the oven on and need to turn it off or maybe Universe is saving us from an accident. We lost our license because it can be that we were driving very carelessly lately and need to realize and come to our senses. Perhaps we got laid off because work was so stressful for us that it wasn’t helping our soul grow or the divorce may mean that we have completed our karma with that person.

There are many scenarios that we can think of however the reasons are not always crystal clear. Furthermore we are so stuck in our logic that we don’t even try to understand the big picture. We just get angry and desperate. But the truth is, there is always another way to make life better. It might take a while to find our path but we will eventually. Everything happens for a reason and when we realize and accept it, we see the blessings in each experience that we thought was terrible.

Every second of our lives is full of opportunities to be a better person and to allow our souls to grow.

We have been taught to be a victim. But we need to realize and teach the new generation that being a victim doesn’t help anything in life.

It’s time to pay attention to all the messages coming our way. We need to understand that we are not controlling everything in life all the time. There is a greater force in the Universe and its messages are continuous.

Once we tune ourselves, we will start hearing the messages.

Just stop, breathe in, breath out, pause your thoughts and listen… Can you hear? God is whispering to us.

 

Coaching

Blessings and Shortcomings

We often find ourselves living the same life scenarios.

Sometimes we take the challenges so hard that we react immediately and fall into the victim mode; while sometimes we are not even slightly affected by the same challenge.

One word may push our buttons to make us utterly depressed and at another time the same word said by the same person will be our joke material.

Have you ever thought why? Why would we react different to the same challenges? Logically if something hurts me, it will hurt me no matter what.

There is a good explanation for all of this.

When we are not happy, we will be negative. We will get mad at everything; from the traffic lights, to our shoes’ laces; all will bother us. We will start arguing and fighting with ourselves, with people around us and eventually with life. This state of mind will then put us in darkness and depression.

Luckily, today we have all the self-help materials and many methods to overcome our negativities at our disposal. When we find ourselves angry, we try pausing, breathing ten times or pushing ourselves to see the ‘oneness’ in the other person; these are absolutely amazing tools to work with, however we need to go deeper to understand why we are experiencing these situations continuously.

When we are happy, we barely notice anything negative around us, even if we face the same annoying situations and go through the same scenarios that made us angry before, this time nothing will affect us. Furthermore since happiness creates trust and connects us to our souls and life, we will feel that unity between everyone and everything around us.

Most of us believe that happiness will come as a result of something. If such and such happens, then I will be happy. When I have more money, when I get married, when I have kids, when I graduate, when he calls me, when she loves me, I will be happy. All of our wishes may manifest in our lives or we can find ourselves in a totally different place in life, far away from our desires. Should that be an excuse not to be happy anymore? And if we do end up living our dreams, we might end up having a totally unexpected challenge, then should we stop being happy, until that challenge is resolved?

When one thing doesn’t go as we wish, we concentrate only on that aspect but that lack is only 1 % of our lives. – We treat the lack as if everything depends on it and ignore our blessings that make up the 99% of our lives.

We are blessed with so many things in life. Everyday is a different day then the previous one that has its own blessings with its differences and with each day we are given the opportunity to change and connect to life and be happy.

Life is indeed a gift. As much as we have the power to change the negative to positive, we also have the power to change the positive to negative that will put us in darkness.

This is a choice. We will attract whatever we concentrate on. Let’s not concentrate on our lacks as if they are all that we have. Let’s maintain a state of being so that while facing difficulties, we will be grateful to all other things existing in our lives which will give us full energy to rise above the challenge to solve it in a magical way.

Focusing to our blessings will make us happy and we will connect to our souls, the Universe and our Creator. When we are connected, we will be filled with pure joy and that is the core and mission of our lives.

 

 

 

Coaching

Don’t Procrastinate Being Happy

We all search for happiness yet at the same time we have a tendency to postpone being happy.

It is very interesting that for some reason instead of trying to be happy with our blessings, we concentrate on what we lack in life and decide to be happy when we have everything we ask for.

Furthermore we have adapted some thought forms like –I can only be happy when I find a job, get richer, have a relation, marry, have kids and etc– which unfortunately block us to experience happiness.

With this way of thinking and belief system, we might end up searching for happiness all through our lives, failing to find it.

But the good news is happiness is here at this moment! It’s just that we are looking for it at the wrong place…

If we are looking for happiness outside of ourselves, we will never find it because there is nothing to find out there.

Everything is within. Happiness is in ourselves. It is a deep feeling that comes from the depth of our souls.

Every second we are given an option to choose to be happy or not. In those seconds, if we go back to our thought forms, we block our inner happiness, however when we let go of all the thoughts and worries, happiness will manifest itself.

We are all looking for a problem-free life. I agree that would be amazing, however, as long as we are living we will always have challenging issues. That is the natural flow of life.

We can not wait these challenges to go away to be happy. We need to choose to be happy now, not tomorrow…

Also happiness should never be conditioned to any circumstances.

We need to concentrate seeing the bigger picture in life all the time.

We might be living a major financial problem, but we should still be grateful and happy that we are healthy and have the strength to deal with it. We should also be able to feel happy watching a sunrise, flower bloom…

All the challenges in life are illusions. Our problems will get as big as we see them or get as small as we perceive them.

Life is here at this moment. Happiness is also here in this moment to grab for us.

Let’s not forget that happiness is inside of us. We will just need to step away from our ego to let the happiness come out.

Actually when we are happy, we are allowing our soul to be manifest.