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Feng Shui Your ​Kid’s Room

Kids sense the energy around them. A good Feng Shui in their room will nourish them, whereas a bad one will make them uncomfortable and resistant to life.

During one of my consultations, my client told me that her teen daughter hated her room so much that she would rather sleep on the living room sofa, than to sleep in her own bed. Obviously, this was very frustrating for them and they were eager to do anything to reverse the situation.

The major issue was the position of the bed. It was placed right in front of the door, leaving little space to be closed. When the teen would lie in her bed, her feet would face the door. This is called the ‘coffin position’ and is considered threatening.

The second problem was the head of the bed. It was leaning against the window and had metal frames. Windows can’t provide protection to the negative energy coming from outside and metal frames distort the energy, causing the person to feel insecure and uncomfortable.

It is very important to feel secure while sleeping, and beds have a huge role. No wonder, the daughter didn’t want to sleep in her own bed; subconsciously, she was feeling the negative energy.

Besides the bed, her desk placement was also not correct. It was in the middle of the room with no back support and this was affecting her ability to concentrate.

First, we changed the metal frames to a solid, fabric bedhead and moved the bed to the command position of the room, leaning its head against the wall. Then we repositioned the desk in a way that her chair would be between the desk and the wall.

These changes gave her the feeling of protection while sleeping, and ability to concentrate when studying.

By the time we were done with the clutter cleaning and space clearing, the stagnant energy had already started to soften and flow again.

Within a short time, I got a call from the Mom. She told me that her daughter had not only loved the changes we’ve made, she had also started spending time and sleeping in her room!

Feng Shui is the art of placing furniture to create a balance between the visible and the invisible worlds. When the energy flows properly in our spaces, we feel supported and healthy. Especially kids, being much more receptive than adults, will reflect the positivity in all areas of their lives.

If your kids are having issues with their room or bed, please acknowledge and address the problem. Sometimes, by only making a simple change, you can allow the energy to flow correctly in their room.

Kids that have balanced energy in their rooms will sleep better, feel supported and have more confidence in life.

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Eliminating Our Limits

We all have limited beliefs about ourselves.

We create these beliefs subconsciously along our path, based on our family history, personalities, environment, and experience. Once we create them, they become our truth and start shaping our lives, leaving us with unworthy feelings. Some believe that they are not worthy of love or wealth or happiness or career and so on.

Most of the time, we are our own enemies in not believing in ourselves and creating obstacles in our lives to achieve our desires.

Thinking without boundaries, and allowing the life energy flow freely in our lives help us overcome our limits.

Feng Shui is a very strong tool that helps us to eliminate our boundaries.

Those that feel blocked in life will have stuck energy in their living spaces, no matter what. They will unconsciously place furniture, plants or stuff in a way that they would block the chi (life energy).

It is very important that the chi can flow freely and harmoniously in our homes. To understand the flow of chi better, think about water. If you were to let the water enter your house from the entrance door, where would it go? Would it get stuck behind some furniture or would it flow comfortably without running into any obstacles? Would it flow too fast to leave the house out of the window opposite to your door?

Try to visualize where the water would stop and create a paddle. That’s exactly where the chi will get stuck. Modify that area by rearranging the furniture to remove the obstacle. If the water would flow too fast then put an object or a carpet between the door and the window to avoid the energy flee. The idea is to have the chi flow at a normal pace.

By creating a harmonious flow in your home, you are also allowing that same energy in your life, and by removing those obstacles, you are taking the initiative to eliminate your own limits and toxic thoughts. Finally, by preventing the energy flee, you are not letting opportunities run away from you.

If you have kids that feel stuck in life, you can go to their rooms and imagine the water flow to determine what the obstacles are. Now you know what to do… But always remember to ask for their permission to make a change in their rooms, if they are mature enough. Most of the kids will agree to work with you as they are much more open to energies than we adults are.

Think bigger and allow what life has to offer you by clearing your physical and mental limits.

 

 

 

 

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27 Things


Life gets stagnant sometimes and so does your energy. When you feel blocked, you can’t be happy, take a decision or make an action. This happens to everyone, without exception. Some can get out of this state of being easier, some can’t.

When you find yourself in need of a change, Feng Shui recommends to change the place of 27 objects in your space that haven’t been moved for a long time. With the power of the number 27 and repositioning of things, you will start feeling a transformation in your energy level.

If you feel like doing little work and taking small steps, just look around and find small items that you feel can be moved.

If you feel like doing more work, reposition your furniture, throw away the items that are not serving you anymore and buy new ones, change colors, relocate your plants.

And listen to music, light candles, burn incense or use homeopathic oils.

The energy will start shifting immediately. Use this opportunity to engage back to life.

You can choose to do this process in any of your living spaces. It could be your home, office, room, vacation rental, dorm or even your desk!

Just remember, when you change your energy,  you can change your life!

 

 

 

 

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Objects that I love

Years ago, I did a Feng Shui Consultancy to a newly married woman. She had a good, balanced life, loved her husband and had high energy. However, she had issues being at home, especially in her living room. It was the nicest and the largest area of her house, yet she was refusing to spend time there unless she had to.

Naturally, we concentrated on the causes and realized that one of the major reasons for her blockage was not the space but the objects. She had many accessories, that she didn’t like, and also had a carpet that she could barely look at. So, I asked her why she was keeping all these things, if she didn’t like them, and she told me that they were all gifts from family and she was supposed to do so.

I explained to her that, all the objects which she didn’t like, but had to keep around, was blocking her energy and the best cure was to put them away. She was reluctant at first, but eventually agreed to it. Nevertheless, she told me that there was no way, she could remove the carpet, as it was a wedding gift from her mother-in-law and if she did, she would get into trouble. I told her to trust her soul’s desires and mentioned that when we do things out of love and with good intentions, everything goes right. Before leaving, I asked her to pay attention to how much the carpet was disturbing her. After a few weeks, when I went back to her house to do the final check, I saw the carpet was gone! I immediately looked at her with questioning eyes; and she said that until to that day, her know-it-all and see-it-all in-law didn’t even realize that the carpet had disappeared!

I have seen this scenario, in almost all the spaces I have done Feng Shui consultations. When we don’t like the objects, colors or furniture in the spaces we live in, we feel disharmony and the flow of chi (life energy) gets blocked.

As we all know by now, everything around us interacts with our soul. When we love an object, our energy will rise and when we dislike an object, we will experience the opposite. Even though we think changing items’ places or removing them will cause issues with others, it will not. When the blockages are cleared and the chi starts flowing harmoniously, everything finds its right place creating peace.

It is very crucial that we hear and feel our environment and decide what serves us. Certainly, we can’t be happy in an environment that is filled with stuff that reminds us about our distressed past, arguments and failures. And certainly, we won’t like seeing objects that remind us about the people that we dislike.   It is only when we find the inner strength to remove the paining stuff from our space and our lives, the blockages in our lives will start to disappear.

Unfortunately, even though we feel this energy shift, we still keep objects around us that we despise, just like the newly married woman. We keep them, firstly, because we don’t believe that simply moving an object will make a difference. Secondly, we feel obligated to make others happy, letting go of our own needs.

So, today, please take your time to look around your space, and see how the objects, colors around you, are affecting your soul. Listen to yourself. Take the object to your hand or simply touch it, are you smiling or are you feeling off? If you don’t even want to look at the object, you know what to do, please don’t hesitate.

For those of us who are married or living with a partner, we need to find our own balance with our partners. We will both need to express ourselves in our shared spaces while learning to compromise.

Let’s not forget to value our soul’s desires to create harmony between the physical and the spiritual.

With Love,

Eda Birol

 

 

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Life is Beautiful

Sometimes we tend to forget the beauty of being alive. We become automated, doing the same things over and over again, taking granted everything around us. Most of us get so caught up in our thoughts and in our daily stuff that we do not realize a blossoming flower, singing bird, laughter of a kid, sunrises and sunsets.

While we distance from ourselves, we experience a lack of connection from life and our days start to be exactly the same as the previous ones. Trying to make a stand in life, we forget about our homes too and not appreciating our own sanctuary starts bringing us unhappiness and unawareness.

The best part is that we are fortunate enough to change any time and one of the ways to create change in our lives is through Feng Shui.

Feng Shui, in simple words, is the art of placement and arrangement of our surroundings to have the chi(life energy) flow smoothly, creating harmony and balance in all aspects of our lives.

Sometimes, chi can’t flow smoothly because unintentionally we clutter our surroundings, misplace our furniture, have unbalanced elements, and missing energy areas.

Good news is that these can all be fixed! Hence to start the process we will just need to open our Feng Shui Eyes. When we look at our environment with this consciousness, we will be able to tell a lot about ourselves.

If we want change in our lives, first we need to have the intention to change. Then we should choose a day to visit our homes as a guest. Using some of the tips below and listening to our inner voice we should write down the changes we would like to make.

  • If there are objects that pull our energy down, we need to get rid of them
  • If we feel like changing the place of our furniture, we should do so
  • Our main entrance is the place where the life energy will enter our house. It should be clean, free of clutter and welcoming
  • On our entrance door, let’s have symbols, objects, accessories that reflect us, for example a ‘welcome’ sign.
  • If there is a mirror placed just opposite to the main entrance, we must remove it, to keep the energy in the house.
  • Kitchen is considered the heart of the house, it should be clean and nourishing
  • For prosperity, all the burners on our stove must be used
  • Fresh flowers in the kitchen
  • In bedrooms, if there is a mirror against our bed where we can see ourselves lying down, place of the mirror or the bed needs to change
  • None of the beds should be in alignment with the door
  • We must create a space in our living room where our family and friends can entertain and be together
  • Use of only mirrors that are not stained, cracked and darkened
  • If someone is single and looking to have a partner, he/she needs to get rid of all single objects, artwork of lonely woman/man, needs to have two bedside tables and two matching night lights
  • Use our inner voice to make any changes

Once we have our list, we must start from the easy ones.

One of my favorite philosophies of Feng Shui is “if it ain’t broken, don’t fix it,” meaning if you are happy with your life, don’t change anything.

However if that small voice within is telling you “it’s time for a change” then open your Feng Shui Eyes and visit your home.

Published in Elephant Journal 2015

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/09/feng-shui-clear-your-space-clear-your-mind/

 

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From Clutter to Inner Freedom

‘I come home. Everything is scattered. Shoes are at the entrance, invoices and letters are on the countertop, keys are thrown to the table, blankets are on the sofa, school bags are hung to the chairs, laundry is full. It’s been a while that the house is attended. I enter the house from work with the intention to tidy up and clear the clutter around. I fail to do so. Looking around pulls my energy down. I choose to look away, I don’t feel like clearing clutter today… Maybe tomorrow…

Lately I have started saying ‘tomorrow’ to everything. I have been postponing my life for so long… I wake up everyday saying today is the day I will get hold of my life. Then I see my house full of stuff, I immediately get suffocated and decide to start everything tomorrow.

I am in a vicious cycle; when will I find the energy to really take responsibility of my life? I also need to start a diet, gym, search for a new job, go shopping and change the broken bulbs…

Yes, I am alive but there is an unbearable heaviness on me. I need to break it. But how? Maybe I should ask help form my neighbor…

I love her house. She is so clean, so tidy. How does she do it? She has no piles of stuff around, no clutter. It’s really amazing. She is very organized, has a nice job, good social life. On the other hand she is looking for a relation ever since I know her.

Once she had told me that she is keeping all the notes, emails and pictures of her relation of ten years ago. She is even keeping the notes that she had torn into pieces.

She really must be stuck in the past.

Just like me, she can’t move on either.’

 

We are all prisoners of our past and emotions until we decide to let go and break free.

This energy of ‘letting go’ doesn’t always come easy. Usually life brings us to a point where we ‘can’t anymore’…

That is the point where life shakes us and yells at us saying ‘c’mon, time to wake up!’

The easiest step to wake up and start the change is by clearing our clutter. Clutter, because it is the manifestation of our blockages on the physical level.

As we are all unique, we will all create clutter in our environment different than one another. Some of us will accumulate stuff in the bedrooms, some in the kitchen, some in the closets, some at work and some all around.

Everything around us has a message for us. If we can learn to understand the messages, we will see that we create our clutter exactly at the area that we are having problems with.

Clearing clutter seems something to do only in the physical level. However it is not. When decluttering, we are opening space on the physical level but at the same time we are healed within, allowing more space for new opportunities.

It is absolutely difficult to let go of an old relation mentally but it’s easier to get rid of the things that belonged to this relation which will help us through the letting go process.

We actually don’t welcome change easily because we we feel safe with our patterns and sorrows.

But life is about change, experiencing the breath deep within and learning to move on.

Clearing clutter is not the solution to all our problems, however it is the magical step that enables us to take control of our lives.

Once we confront and deal with our clutter, we need to continue the inner work. The more attuned we become to our purpose in life, less we will feel the need to accumulate clutter.

However one day we might find ourselves again stuck in life, and realise that we created a lot of clutter again. We should all know that it is totally okay!

This is life.

We will fall down and create clutter; then rise up and be free of clutter again.

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Free Of Clutter

We all want to flow with life and live in harmony.

Harmony comes when we open our hearts and be receptive to everything around us. Only then energy coming from the Universe is able to flow smoothly through our body healing us…

When we are aligned with life, we feel happiness.

It is same for our homes, too. As the life energy flows smoothly in our homes, we feel lighter and become more attuned to our lives. This is possible because as we reflect our energies to our homes, our belongings also have an affect on us.

The best way to reach harmony in our homes is to be free of clutter.

Clutter is, defined to be, an untidy mass of collected things. A few examples to clutter would be a pile of letters kept for years that have no purpose anymore, disorganized notes, invoices; clothes thrown around or squeezed into the closets; books, pictures, newspapers; old clothes that are not worn for a few years; unfinished projects. Basically anything that is not wanted, not attended to, thrown aside, unfinished, accumulated for a while will create clutter.

The issue with clutter is that it blocks the movement of the energy. In the area where there is clutter, the energy will become stagnant. This situation will reflect to our subconscious, creating demotivation, procrastination, low energy, depression, sadness, less appetite for life.

However we are free people and we don’t need the heaviness of the clutter in our lives. We just need to confront our clutter and decide to get rid of. The results will be beyond our imaginations…

Acknowledging our clutter and seeing where we are accumulating stuff more, will give us an idea about which areas of our lives might be blocked.

Let’s discover together the effects of clutter in different areas of our homes.

  • Clutter in the entrance weakens the life energy and prevents new opportunities and livelihood to enter person’s life
  • Clutter in the kitchen, creates blockage in the unity and health of the family
  • Clutter in bedrooms and especially next to bed prevents the person from having a nourishing sleep and lack of intimacy with the partner
  • Clutter in the attic, represents blocked future plans and aspirations. This is the self sabotage area for new projects
  • Clutter under the bed will pull the person’s energy down
  • Clutter in garage means not reaching one’s potential.
  • Clutter in the basement reveals the person that one is living in the past
  • Clutter in hallways prevents the life energy to reach all parts of the house creating a gap in the relations of the people living in the same house
  • Clutter in living and family rooms changes the lifestyle of person, tendency to become unsocial and isolated from the community
  • Clutter in bathrooms, disables a person to relax and meditate
  • Clutter all around creates anger and frustration

Everything in life talks to us, we just need to be willing to get the messages. When we get the messages, we will feel a push from within to get on track again. This push is telling us that ‘it is okay to let go, you are ready’…

So now, it’s time to get rid of our clutter:

  • Let’s look around our house and see in which areas we have clutter
  • Let’s go through our belongings one by one and ask ourselves these questions:                                                                                     * Do I love it?                                                                      * Does it uplift me?                                                                        * Is it useful?                                                                 If we answer yes to these questions we should continue to keep that item, if not, it is time to let go of that object
  • If there is too much furniture blocking the passage, we should move them around slightly to open space for the flow of energy
  • If there are clothes that we are not wearing for over 2 years or we are keeping ‘just in case’ so when we lose our weight we will wear them, these should definitely be given away
  • Anything that is broken, and not reparable needs to go.
  • All the old notes, letters that pull our energy down should go
  • If our drawers and closets are very messy, it is time to take responsibility and start organizing them
  • WE should give much importance keep ourentrances welcoming and free of clutter

Clearing clutter is more important then we think since it symbolizes our subconscious, we will also need to confront our deeper baggage while clearing. With this in mind, there is one very important recommendation: Don’t overwhelm yourself. Either start slow or fast but start. Choose an easy area first. The more you clear, the more freedom you will feel within.

Having said all these, please be aware that being free of clutter doesn’t mean to be extremely clean and tidy at all times. It means not accumulating stuff that will affect our subconscious.

So let’s go on and enjoy our lives as free people who are free of clutter.