Do you have the patience to wait,
Till your mud settles and water is clear?
Can you remain unmoving,
Till the right action arises by itself?

Lao Tzu Tao-Te-Ching

We live in a fast-paced era and expect instant gratification, wanting things to happen right now. 

You ordered food, and it’s taking too long, you are expecting an important call, and there is a lengthy line at the bank.

Can you wait calmly?

Some of us are innately patient, while some are very impatient.

When we are impatient, our cortisol and adrenaline levels rise. While this helps us when our survival is at risk, being impatient daily harms us mentally and physically. 

When we look deeper into impatience, we see anger because things are not happening as we want them to be. We desire things to be a certain way, and they are not.

Patience is defined as allowing things to unfold in their own time. We cannot rush the seasons, and if we try to help a caterpillar transform into a butterfly faster, we will only damage the butterfly. Likewise, when we try to rush and force things to happen on our terms, we cause damage and create suffering. 

The good news is that we can learn and practice patience. Patience is an alternative to the restless mind and allows us to be mindful in life. When we are more patient with ourselves, we become more patient with others and life. Bear in mind that there are times when we will need to push life, but if we are patient, we will do it mindfully and by being in harmony with our inner selves and life.

So how do we become more patient?

  • Practice meditation & mindfulness
  • Accept your current circumstances
  • If you feel you are rushing, concreate on your breathing
  • Exercise positive talk with yourself

Becoming more patient is a slow process, but surely one that will gift us a more fulfilling life.