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Coaching

A New Door

Eda Birol

When a new door opens in our life, it’s better to enter through that door without any second thoughts. We might be ready or reluctant to pass through, however, there is a reason why that door appeared at that specific time in our lives.

As soon as, we let go of our thoughts, prejudices and fears, we allow ourselves to be guided by the Universe. By grabbing the opportunity emerging on our path with loyalty, we surrender to the Universe.

Everything that comes on our path will take us to a new level, a different dimension. Just know that ‘non-resistance’ comes with incredible rewards.

Sometimes it might seem that the door we entered led us nowhere and we might start torturing ourselves with the question ‘what if I didn’t”. If we give in to this doubt, it will weigh heavy on our souls.

Who knows maybe this door is only a passage to the next one that will open to the realization of our dreams.

When we go with the flow without any negativity, we put our souls on the guidance seat. And truly, with the guidance of the soul, life can only be beautiful.

Feng Shui - English

Eliminating Our Limits

Eda Birol

We all have limited beliefs about ourselves.

We create these beliefs subconsciously along our path, based on our family history, personalities, environment, and experience. Once we create them, they become our truth and start shaping our lives, leaving us with unworthy feelings. Some believe that they are not worthy of love or wealth or happiness or career and so on.

Most of the time, we are our own enemies in not believing in ourselves and creating obstacles in our lives to achieve our desires.

Thinking without boundaries, and allowing the life energy flow freely in our lives help us overcome our limits.

Feng Shui is a very strong tool that helps us to eliminate our boundaries.

Those that feel blocked in life will have stuck energy in their living spaces, no matter what. They will unconsciously place furniture, plants or stuff in a way that they would block the chi (life energy).

It is very important that the chi can flow freely and harmoniously in our homes. To understand the flow of chi better, think about water. If you were to let the water enter your house from the entrance door, where would it go? Would it get stuck behind some furniture or would it flow comfortably without running into any obstacles? Would it flow too fast to leave the house out of the window opposite to your door?

Try to visualize where the water would stop and create a paddle. That’s exactly where the chi will get stuck. Modify that area by rearranging the furniture to remove the obstacle. If the water would flow too fast then put an object or a carpet between the door and the window to avoid the energy flee. The idea is to have the chi flow at a normal pace.

By creating a harmonious flow in your home, you are also allowing that same energy in your life, and by removing those obstacles, you are taking the initiative to eliminate your own limits and toxic thoughts. Finally, by preventing the energy flee, you are not letting opportunities run away from you.

If you have kids that feel stuck in life, you can go to their rooms and imagine the water flow to determine what the obstacles are. Now you know what to do… But always remember to ask for their permission to make a change in their rooms, if they are mature enough. Most of the kids will agree to work with you as they are much more open to energies than we adults are.

Think bigger and allow what life has to offer you by clearing your physical and mental limits.

 

 

 

 

Coaching

One Step Further

Eda Birol

We are living in an interesting era.

Our thoughts are manifesting much faster than before. We think about a person, and in no time, we either see that person or hear about him. We feel something will go wrong, immediately, we experience an issue in our lives. In an unexplainable way, it feels like, time has started to flow much faster than before.

Actually, this fast manifestation is very fascinating as it allows us to experience our lives without delays. That’s the good news. But there is a challenge to it. Life will manifest the positive and the negative, depending on what we send to the Universe.

If we are ‘being positive’ with our words but subconsciously transmitting negative vibes, then we will experience exactly what we don’t want. That’s one of the main reasons that we all know very positive people who are still struggling.

We need to take the positivity one step further. We need to align our energy with our words and thoughts because the Universe only responds to our vibration.

Every day is a blessed opportunity for us to make a change in our lives. Once we know that words are not enough, we can train ourselves to raise our vibrations to our desires and move to the receiving mode as the Universe is always in the giving mode. Then, all we need to do is to allow the right energy to flow into our lives.

Feng Shui - English

27 Things

Eda Birol

Life gets stagnant sometimes and so does your energy. When you feel blocked, you can’t be happy, take a decision or make an action. This happens to everyone, without exception. Some can get out of this state of being easier, some can’t.

When you find yourself in need of a change, Feng Shui recommends to change the place of 27 objects in your space that haven’t been moved for a long time. With the power of the number 27 and repositioning of things, you will start feeling a transformation in your energy level.

If you feel like doing little work and taking small steps, just look around and find small items that you feel can be moved.

If you feel like doing more work, reposition your furniture, throw away the items that are not serving you anymore and buy new ones, change colors, relocate your plants.

And listen to music, light candles, burn incense or use homeopathic oils.

The energy will start shifting immediately. Use this opportunity to engage back to life.

You can choose to do this process in any of your living spaces. It could be your home, office, room, vacation rental, dorm or even your desk!

Just remember, when you change your energy,  you can change your life!

 

 

 

 

Feng Shui - English

Objects that I love

Eda Birol

Years ago, I did a Feng Shui Consultancy to a newly married woman. She had a good, balanced life, loved her husband and had high energy. However, she had issues being at home, especially in her living room. It was the nicest and the largest area of her house, yet she was refusing to spend time there unless she had to.

Naturally, we concentrated on the causes and realized that one of the major reasons for her blockage was not the space but the objects. She had many accessories, that she didn’t like, and also had a carpet that she could barely look at. So, I asked her why she was keeping all these things, if she didn’t like them, and she told me that they were all gifts from family and she was supposed to do so.

I explained to her that, all the objects which she didn’t like, but had to keep around, was blocking her energy and the best cure was to put them away. She was reluctant at first, but eventually agreed to it. Nevertheless, she told me that there was no way, she could remove the carpet, as it was a wedding gift from her mother-in-law and if she did, she would get into trouble. I told her to trust her soul’s desires and mentioned that when we do things out of love and with good intentions, everything goes right. Before leaving, I asked her to pay attention to how much the carpet was disturbing her. After a few weeks, when I went back to her house to do the final check, I saw the carpet was gone! I immediately looked at her with questioning eyes; and she said that until to that day, her know-it-all and see-it-all in-law didn’t even realize that the carpet had disappeared!

I have seen this scenario, in almost all the spaces I have done Feng Shui consultations. When we don’t like the objects, colors or furniture in the spaces we live in, we feel disharmony and the flow of chi (life energy) gets blocked.

As we all know by now, everything around us interacts with our soul. When we love an object, our energy will rise and when we dislike an object, we will experience the opposite. Even though we think changing items’ places or removing them will cause issues with others, it will not. When the blockages are cleared and the chi starts flowing harmoniously, everything finds its right place creating peace.

It is very crucial that we hear and feel our environment and decide what serves us. Certainly, we can’t be happy in an environment that is filled with stuff that reminds us about our distressed past, arguments and failures. And certainly, we won’t like seeing objects that remind us about the people that we dislike.   It is only when we find the inner strength to remove the paining stuff from our space and our lives, the blockages in our lives will start to disappear.

Unfortunately, even though we feel this energy shift, we still keep objects around us that we despise, just like the newly married woman. We keep them, firstly, because we don’t believe that simply moving an object will make a difference. Secondly, we feel obligated to make others happy, letting go of our own needs.

So, today, please take your time to look around your space, and see how the objects, colors around you, are affecting your soul. Listen to yourself. Take the object to your hand or simply touch it, are you smiling or are you feeling off? If you don’t even want to look at the object, you know what to do, please don’t hesitate.

For those of us who are married or living with a partner, we need to find our own balance with our partners. We will both need to express ourselves in our shared spaces while learning to compromise.

Let’s not forget to value our soul’s desires to create harmony between the physical and the spiritual.

With Love,

Eda Birol

 

 

Coaching

Free Yourself

Eda Birol

I decided to step away from my victim identity.

I know that most of you, just like me, chose to be a victim in life, blaming others and life when we encountered a chaotic situation and found ourselves with an outcome we didn’t like.

Although we knew the damage of victimizing ourselves, we still chose to do so, always putting the blame on others or life. For whatever reason, it’s very hard for us to shake off from that role.

On the other hand we are very happy when life treats us well, and when things go smooth. At those moments we have high energy, get along with almost everyone and are grateful to the Universe.

The moment we experience an issue that we don’t like, our energy falls from high to very low levels, our positivity hides behind our negativity and our good connection with the Universe turns into questions like, “Really G-d? Why me? Why now?”

We aren’t able to stand still and stay positive when we get a traffic ticket from a very grumpy policeman or when we lose money or find our loved ones lied to us. Most of the times we immediately fall into our misery and create a beautiful victim of ourselves, expecting others to pity us. While we are in this mode, how can anyone expect us still to be grateful to G-d? That second, our relation with the Universe changes into blame and we totally disconnect.
It’s incredible why we keep on doing the same thing and falling into our agony. Maybe we just don’t realize that we are choosing to be a victim. Perhaps it feels safe to be in that state since taking responsibility might end up with a change and it scares us.

We all know that neither being a victim nor others feeling for us will ever help us to better the scenario we are going through.
Don’t you think it’s time for all of us to shake off from our victim role and take responsibility of our lives?

If you agree, please always remember that we are a part of a bigger plan and we are all perfect. We come to life with a correction and until that correction is realized, we will create scenarios in our lives that push us to our limits. Those limits are the points where we feel victimized; and it blocks us to make any corrections. Furthermore our energy sends messages to the Universe, saying that the correction is not completed, send a similar one.

If we want a smoother life, it’s time to step aside form our misery.

The first step is to wake up from our sleep, acknowledging and accepting our chaos.

The second step is instead of blaming G-d and others, asking our selves, why am I living this and what’s the message Universe is trying to give me.

And the third step is to be open to changes.

Being kind and grateful are the most important tools that help us with the process. Once we take responsibility and be open to changes, everything around us will start shifting. Even the policeman that stops us for a ticket will smile and will either give us a warning or the case will drop at the traffic court.

Life is just beyond amazing when we get out of our victim mode.

Coaching

God is Whispering

Eda Birol

Our souls talk to us all the time.

We usually don’t hear that talk. Sometimes we hear a whisper, but is so so soft that we barely pay any attention to it.

We’ve all experienced and got stressed over losing our wallet or keys before leaving the house. If we were in a hurry, we felt that unpleasant anger flowing down on our spines. Maybe it wasn’t the keys, it was the license that got lost . Or we were laid off once and felt extremely unworthy or gone bankrupt and got depressed, or gone through a painful divorce and lost our joy.

How can a sane person make sense of all the dramas of life? How can we not fall into depression and blame life or ourselves for all that’s happening?

Of course, logically there is no good in losing a key or a license and being late, getting laid off and having income issues or getting divorced. None.

However the truth is we are complicated beings above logic. Our existence is beyond logic and we can’t continue seeking logic in everything we go through.

We come to this world with a plan. Some call it karma, some call it tikkun – correction-. We learn as we live and make corrections along the way. Every thing that is happening to us actually is a part of our plan whether we like it or not. It might sound very radical but everything happening to us is perfect for our soul and needed for our growth.

Everything around us from humans to matter, have a spark of God within. We are all connected somehow. And through that connection we are in communication. We are just not trained to hear it.

Universe talks to us through our every single experience.

We can’t find our wallet at that moment because maybe we left the oven on and need to turn it off or maybe Universe is saving us from an accident. We lost our license because it can be that we were driving very carelessly lately and need to realize and come to our senses. Perhaps we got laid off because work was so stressful for us that it wasn’t helping our soul grow or the divorce may mean that we have completed our karma with that person.

There are many scenarios that we can think of however the reasons are not always crystal clear. Furthermore we are so stuck in our logic that we don’t even try to understand the big picture. We just get angry and desperate. But the truth is, there is always another way to make life better. It might take a while to find our path but we will eventually. Everything happens for a reason and when we realize and accept it, we see the blessings in each experience that we thought was terrible.

Every second of our lives is full of opportunities to be a better person and to allow our souls to grow.

We have been taught to be a victim. But we need to realize and teach the new generation that being a victim doesn’t help anything in life.

It’s time to pay attention to all the messages coming our way. We need to understand that we are not controlling everything in life all the time. There is a greater force in the Universe and its messages are continuous.

Once we tune ourselves, we will start hearing the messages.

Just stop, breathe in, breath out, pause your thoughts and listen… Can you hear? God is whispering to us.